A website and Blog all about Tamara, Dan, and Jonah

Wow, it’s been a long time!

August 16th, 2010 Posted in Uncategorized | No Comments »

Nearly forgot I had this blog.

Just wanted to post something here since it has been so long. Jonah is now 4 years old! Crazy to look down this post and see where he was eating applesauce. I’ve now learned the true meaning of “Look how big you are!”.

We have a crazy cool screened in porch that we just built this summer. I’m looking out onto it now, with the windows and doors open and the sound of crickets drifting in over the night air. Please come by and check it out if you haven’t already. Would love to show it to you.

My Goals

December 11th, 2008 Posted in Uncategorized | No Comments »

It is that time of year, and I find myself writing my yearly performance review at work, and establishing goals for the upcoming year. It seemed a prime time to define some personal goals, and make sure I’m on track.

So here they are, in order of importance …..

  • Be an exceptional father. I want to be there when he needs me. I want to have his life in mind, I want his troubles and worries to be my own. I want to share in his childhood and be a friend in times of need. I want to provide for his upbringing – he should have the opportunity to learn all that he wants to learn.
  • Build and create beautiful things. Build things that are intricate, and beautiful and complex. I want to loose myself to these creations. I want to be inspired by my own designs and feel the energy of that creation. To be possessed by our ability to create from nothing, something of value, something of merit, something of grace and symmetry. I want to be filled with a love of all that is real and knowable in this world – and in that moment, glimpse what is not.
  • Make the world a better place. I want to help people. I want to help many types of people. I want my wife to be better person for having to cope with me. I want my coworkers and employees to be better for having to understand me. I want people I’ve never met to benefit from my contributions of time and money. I want my sum contributions to add up to more than the deductions.
  • Grow. I do not want to stagnate, to fixate on a set frame of reference. Rather, I want to have the strength to adjust, and appreciate a frame of reference, understand it, love it, and only then move on. That is to say, I want to grow. Slowly. I want to grow carefully and thoughtfully and with the tarnish of wisdom about me.
  • Find joy. I want to seek out joy. Extract it from the crevices of daily life, and magnify it, bring it out, share it with the world. But I do not seek out lonely places or dark corners to point out small joys. I step back from those places, and point out the abundant and endless joys – the fantastic complexity and order of the universe, the pleasure of a friend, the wonder of a child, those breathtaking moments of peace that we all know, and so rarely feel, but that inundate our desktops and walls. There is joy. There is peace. I should know it, and conduct it.
  • Idea!

    December 4th, 2008 Posted in Uncategorized | No Comments »

    Our two year old is a wonderful person who is despite to have a good conversation with us, and is trying so wonderfully hard to do so – and I say this with no sarcasm at all, he just isn’t sure where to go, after he gets the conversation going ….

    Jonah: Hey Mom, I have an idea!
    Me: What is it?
    Jonah: I don’t know.

    Conversation stalls…

    Jonah: Hey, I have a question!
    Me: What’s your question?
    Jonah: I don’t know.

    India

    February 27th, 2008 Posted in Uncategorized | 1 Comment »

    A man and a boy in the fishing village on the beach in Chennai. This past week I traveled to Chennai, India and made a side trip to Pondicherry. I am on an airplane now, the trip takes roughly 24 hours, 18 or so hours in the air, the rest standing in various lines so we could get x-rayed, probed, examined, and interrogated by one nation or another. On a scale of travel hospitality India scores a 9, the British an 8 and the US continues to push the boundaries and approach absolute 0. Amazing how important a timely smile can be. India has them in abundance.

    Certainly the biggest initial shock for me was the driving style. This is a quick shot out of Vijay’s car . Here is another movie I didn’t make that also gets the point across. I speak with people in India on a daily basis, and I often notice a lot of horns sounding the background. I was astonished to discover that the reason for all this honking is that no real rules exist for driving in India. You don’t pay attention to lanes, there are no “no passing zones”, and I never saw a speed limit sign. Roads are for all of traffic: from pedestrian to commercial buses, with at least half the traffic made up of bikes and mopeds.
    Head lights? Completely optional. Bikes by the way are frequently used as a family automobile. Dad driving, mom sitting behind him, side saddle, and the baby nestled in the mothers arms. I saw this a 100 times. There is a pecking order that can be quit disconcerting. You definitely get the hell of out the way when you see something larger than you coming your way, and everyone gets out of the way for buses. The bus drivers are a deadly bunch. At one point while driving down a major highly one bus was passing another on a 2 lane road and coming towards us. Our driver was forced to pull into median.

    The second biggest shock is the food. Having grown up watching India Jones and Temple of Doom I had anticipated a challenging culinary experience. Fear ye not. It may well be the best food in the world. I didn’t find the food terribly hot, or completely strange. I found it good. Damn good. Lots of curries and breads and coconut milk. You just can’t go wrong, or at least, you can’t go wrong when you have a team of dedicated people at Lister Technologies pointing you in the right direction.

    I had the amazing opportunity to have breakfast with Stanley Henry’s family on Sunday morning. Stanley comes from a Christian home. We ate at 9:00. I ask if they were going to church and found that Stanley had already gone and that the parents would go later that evening. It is so hot there they tend to go to Mass at the fringes of the day. I got a chance to see Stanley’s home and meet his parents and brother who were all extremely hospitable.

    Some flowersIn Pondicherry I walked the beautiful beach there and spent some time visiting a Hindu temple. Outside the temple was an elephant who would bless you by rubbing it’s trunk on your head. I would say that it took some courage to let him do that, but it didn’t. The animal has the largest most peaceful eyes I have ever seen. Impossible to fear.

    In addition to bikes and mopeds, the streets are thronged with motorized rickshaws. All the same color, all the same shape, at any moment you can walk into the street and count 10 or 12 of them. These drivers can take you all over the city, but beware, they always negotiate a price, there is no standard fare. You have to work it all out ahead of time, otherwise they will get you someplace, then negotiate on getting you back. Not a good place to me.

    I took a ride in a ricksaw a few miles up the road to the Ocean. The beach in Chennai is long, easily a football field in width. Beach goes tend to show up in the early morning before it gets too unbearably hot. The beach is filled with fishing boats, some of which look like graciously sized cannoes, others are hand made, built of rough hewn beams gently warped up and in and held together with rope. There was easily a hundred of these boats gathered together near the fishing village at the end of the beach. Scattered among these boats where the tangled balls of fishing net. At the far end of the beach is a area the government built for these fisherman – a series of concrete apartment houses. Between these buildings and the water is a fish market and I was able to stop and take several pictures which you can see here, here, here and here. The population overflows the concrete homes and builds a number of thatched homes which you can see in many of the pictures above.

    We went to see a movie in Chennai called Jodhaa Akbar. Chennai, though an enormous city, does not have many diversions within it’s boudaries. One of the few ways to get out is to go to the movies. And wow do they ever go to the movies. Just one of the 3 theaters in the multiplipex we visited could sit close to a 1000 people. With a screen a 100 feet across and sound you would expect to find at a large rock concert it was breathtaking experience.

    Outside of Chennai you can find a number of tourist destinations. Among these are a crocodile park, a heritage museum similar to the frontier culture museum in Staunton (but much larger and focused exclusively on India), and a little farther out is Mahabalipurum and ancient (600 BC) site with unbelievable rock carvings and temples.

    On the way to visit Pondicherry our driver stopped at the side of the road and we ran up to a point where they were harvesting sea salt. We got a number of excellent pictures and I felt like a seasoned photographer, dashing into foreign lands and gathering rare shots no one has ever taken. My ego was a bit squashed when they started demanding money from us for letting us take their picture. They seems to know they were a tourist attraction.

    All in all it was a wonderful experience. There are many many more pictures, all of which are available here. Please feel free to come talk to me about it, there are ton of things I didn’t mention here.

    New home

    July 19th, 2007 Posted in Uncategorized | No Comments »

    We are neck deep in the process of moving to a new home. (You can see pictures of the interior and backyard in our image gallery.) We have a week before closing and we are frantically packing up boxes and getting lost in old paper work, distracted by memorabilia, and buried in knick-knacks. We are really excited to be moving to a quiet street in a nice neighborhood and we are looking forward to painting the rooms and updating the house. (With the exception of the “Hugh Hefner” room with the build in wet-bar. in the basement which will remain it’s lovely 60’s self.) I can’t say I’m excited to be leaving behind the pool and giving up my movie room, but things even out. The new home will mean a huge decrease in general maintenance and a huge increase in free time to do things like …. well …. play with my kid and re-decorate. Or work on my model boat – which has been “in-process” for almost six years now.

    I’ve posted some new movies of Jonah. You can now see him eating spaghetti and pretending to vacuum any time the need strikes.

    Well that’s all the news worth telling.

    The Tent

    May 14th, 2007 Posted in Uncategorized | No Comments »

    Tamara bought Jonah a tent last year so he had shady, bug-free place to sleep while we were swimming. We brought the tent back out this year and put it up in the living room just to see what he would do. This is the result.

    In addition we offer you this special bonus video of Jonah and his walker in a little video we like to call “Jonah and his walker”.

    A tired sunday night

    March 18th, 2007 Posted in Uncategorized | No Comments »

    It’s late on a Saturday evening… getting on towards Sundays morning. I’m tired, but it is a quiet, peaceful, uninterrupted, undirected tired. If you are a parent out there I’ll bet you get what I mean right away. I want this tired to last. I want it to last a good long while. It’s not that I dread tomorrow mind you. Tomorrow will be quite excellent. I’ll be laying about on the couch with my son Jonah – taking a nap or knocking blocks together as the mood strikes. That’s a darn good kind of tired as well. It’s all good, as the saying goes. It’s just nice to have a moment to myself.

    Nerdy things follow for no good reason.

    I’ve run across some things that are just wonderfully cool lately. I wanted to post a few quick links.

    Beryl is an amazing windows manager for Linux that makes very effective use of your graphics card. I highly recommend you rush out get a slick new laptop remove windows, install Ubuntu,, and then upgrade to Edgy. Once complete you can apt-get Beryl and become one of the techno-elite. You deserve that don’t you? No? Well, O.k. Then.

    More Movies

    February 19th, 2007 Posted in Uncategorized | No Comments »

    Don’t have the time to link to them all right now, but I’m in the process of adding some additional movies to YouTube.

    Here is the first one:

    One Little Indian

    December 10th, 2006 Posted in Uncategorized | 1 Comment »

    Looks like I’m going to fill this blog up with movies of Jonah, but we could do far worse. For months now Jonah has liked to play a game where I pat his mouth while he tries to talk. He really seems to enjoy it. This is just a short clip of us playing around.

    Applesauce

    November 25th, 2006 Posted in Uncategorized | No Comments »

    We don’t routinely torture our child. We didn’t realize how intense an experience applesauce, particularly bland organic baby applesauce, could be for Jonah. Having now realized what we need to do, we mix his applesauce with some rice cereal. He is far happier with this method and LOVES to eat solid food. I just hope as an adult he doesn’t hold this against us!